Here's end of the story. I brought the bike back to the shop and expressed my displeasure. I left with expectation it would be put right and that we would sort it out after the mechanic had taken a look at. The final upshot is that the bolt in question is not removed during a tire change and inspection of said bolt is not mentioned in the specs for this service. I paid a fair price for parts and labor and have moved on.
Now the lesson here is; if you have a pre 2003 V11, CHECK THIS BOLT! You don't have to wait until your next tire change or brake service. The bolt should be assembled with Locktite as it does not need to be removed and it may decide to exit on its own.
Thanks For the input docc. I have decided to go with the bitubo as I tend to keep things stock. I did a fair amount of reading last night and found a lot of conflicting information; who knew steering dampers could be so controversial! I'm mostly a poser that likes to go fast on smooth roads. No racing for me. I think I will be just fine as long as the replacement doesn't start dripping right away. Thanks again,I apologize for posting before researching.
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